Comments for Lashon Hara - Gossip and Nasty Insults http://www.lashonhara.org Big people talk about ideas, average people talk about things, small people talk about people. Sun, 24 Oct 2010 16:50:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0-beta1 Comment on How To React To Lashon Hara by Alan Polis http://www.lashonhara.org/how-to-react-to-lashon-hara/#comment-93 Alan Polis Sun, 24 Oct 2010 16:50:04 +0000 http://www.lashonhara.org/?p=15#comment-93 Lashon Hara can not prevent a person from defending oneself. If the insult was public, how am I allowed to defend myself? When I say a public forum, I mean that I do not know everyone that she talked to. What can I do? On Yom Kippur, it is difficult for me to forgive someone who harmed my family and myself, and continues to do so. What can I do? Am I permitted to discuss the details with a Rabbi, or some impartial 3rd party? If so, is there a procedure that I need to follow so that the Rabbi can listen to me? Thank you, Alan Lashon Hara can not prevent a person from defending oneself. If the insult was public,
how am I allowed to defend myself? When I say a public forum, I mean that I do not know everyone that she talked to. What can I do?

On Yom Kippur, it is difficult for me to forgive someone who harmed my family and myself, and continues to do so. What can I do? Am I permitted to discuss the details with a Rabbi, or some impartial 3rd party? If so, is there a procedure that I need to
follow so that the Rabbi can listen to me?

Thank you,
Alan

]]> Comment on How To Avoid Lashon Hara by admin http://www.lashonhara.org/how-to-avoid-lashon-hara/#comment-57 admin Thu, 16 Sep 2010 16:41:34 +0000 http://www.lashonhara.org/?p=6#comment-57 John, I agree with you. I don't see a disagreement between what each of us have said, because we're talking about slightly different things. I meant a feeling of superiority in a narrow field. "I give more to charity," might be one such feeling in a narrow field. But then converting that feeling to lashon hara would often be based on feeling insecure about oneself [in general] and therefore trying to tear others down, too. John, I agree with you. I don’t see a disagreement between what each of us have said, because we’re talking about slightly different things.

I meant a feeling of superiority in a narrow field. “I give more to charity,” might be one such feeling in a narrow field.

But then converting that feeling to lashon hara would often be based on feeling insecure about oneself [in general] and therefore trying to tear others down, too.

]]> Comment on How To Avoid Lashon Hara by John Finkleman http://www.lashonhara.org/how-to-avoid-lashon-hara/#comment-56 John Finkleman Thu, 16 Sep 2010 13:20:27 +0000 http://www.lashonhara.org/?p=6#comment-56 I disagree that lashon hara is based on a feeling of superiority. It's exactly the opposite. Those who feel the need to hurt others with their tongues are usually those who are insecure about themselves. Their appearence of superiority is only a defense mechanism against their insecurity. I disagree that lashon hara is based on a feeling of superiority. It’s exactly the opposite. Those who feel the need to hurt others with their tongues are usually those who are insecure about themselves. Their appearence of superiority is only a defense mechanism against their insecurity.

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